counselling

Getting up after great loss

The best moments in King David’s life read like a perfect Biblical Counselling story. That is because the best moments in King David’s life were the moment where he dealt with the great troubles of life in an outstandingly Godly way. One of the most striking “perfect Biblical Counselling stories” from King David’s life is […]

A Testimony of Counselling Bad Behaviour

From a personal vantage point it often seems best not to deal with bad behaviour. The humiliation of acknowledging our own bad behaviour, or the perceived consequences to ourselves in addressing the bad behaviour of others, often results in endless relational headache. From a more objective vantage point, we know that we ought to change […]

The heartache of protecting bad behaviour

Ever since Genesis ch 3, bad behaviour defines humanity. We are startled by the first obvious expression of it in little children; we perfect it in ourselves; we mourn its effect on others; and well into old age we seem to be fluent in bad behaviour. By observing the criminal extremes of bad behaviour, Ecclesiastes […]

I need a good friend and you need me to be a good friend

We are simply too selfish (Pro 18:1), too limited in understanding (Pro 18:2), and too foolish (Pro 12:15) to think we can go through life without some serious input from some good friends. The first obvious benefit of having some good friends is spiritual growth. Just like your physical body doesn’t grow when some of […]

Peace: fake it, break it, or make it

Ken Sande, in his book The Peacemaker, groups all our different responses to conflict into the categories of peace-faking, peace-breaking, and peace-making. These are helpful ways to analyse your own contributions to the lack of peace in your relationships. Faking peace includes responses like acting as though everything is fine, blaming others or circumstances, running […]

How to change destructive and sinful habits

The Christian life is a life of change. When God saved us, we changed spiritually in a most dramatic way—we transformed from spiritual deadness to spiritual life (Ephesians 2:1-5). Since then, we are changed people (2 Cor 5:17), in a permanent process of change (Phil 2:12-13; Rom 12:2). This continual process of change is a […]

“I think” VS “God said”

Too much of spiritual discussion between Christians fall into the “I think” category instead of the “God said” category. Because we are weak in specific Bible knowledge and strong in our opinion, we often say things to other Christians that could be much improved on. There is a subtle satisfaction that comes from staying on […]

Godliness can be very complex or very simple

Our situations in life often require different kinds of counsel. Sometimes all we need is a “Just do it!” or “Stop it” command, other times we need a long and very detailed set of instructions to fulfil our daily responsibilities before God. The same is true of God’s counsel to us. We are taught in […]

Truth about Doubt

Yesterday’s Observations about Doubt can be summarised as … Do not honour doubt; nor fear it. Acknowledge doubt, and stand firm on Truth. There is one passage in the New Testament that deals with the experience of doubt that Christians often face. We know what is true, yet at times we doubt it. Our doubts […]

Observations about Doubt

The experience of doubt often elicits extreme responses from us. Influenced by the world, many consider doubt a sign of enlightenment, maturity, and honesty. To them doubt is noble. “Question everything!” is their philosophy of life, and when their questions get answered with truth, they just invent ten more questions to justify an “open-minded” high […]

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